Friday, November 29, 2013

We do not have to look outside our borders to find babies in desperate need of our help. Help us provide an Essential Bag from Newborns in Need.

What an Essential Bag contains
OK, I know I am the worst blogger on earth, mainly because when I think of great things to put in the blog I am cleaning house, driving somewhere, at the grocery store, at work, anywhere but near where I should be to put the words down.  And when I get to the computer with that burning idea I had in my mind, somehow the words fail, and I can't get anything readable down.

Luckily while I was in Target shopping for, a crock pot for myself, I came up with the idea of purchasing everything we put into an Essential Bag and show what the cost would be if the parents had to purchase everything. 

Here is something to keep in mind when you are reading this list, the Swaddle Sleep Bags are not purchased, I made them, they are thick, warm and snugly.  (Wish I had one my size) and the burp cloths are made from scraps of material donated or purchased from the remnants sections of fabric stores.  I ball parked those costs.

There actually is a list that the National Organization gives the local chapters to use, anything beyond the list is something the local chapter does to help.

We at Alexa's Wings try to add a couple more items that really do help.  Things like baby lotion, Vaseline, diaper rash ointment, baby shampoo as well as wash or one of the two in one baby wash/shampoo items.
All packed up and ready to go!

Ideally we would love to include a container of formula, and a few more bottles, and something for Mom. 

At the moment we put one bottle in the bag, but really anyone who has had or has a baby knows even to start with two to four is a number to have on hand.  If we can  we try to put in two.

Another thing to keep in mind, everything I purchased was either the store brand or on clearance or sale.  If it is something that isn't sold at the Dollar Store, I used the Target cost.

Items that come in a batch we break down to the number that goes into the bag, so if the package contains five onesies, we take it apart and put two in the bag.  Thirty six diapers are split into packs of twelve, and we place twenty-four in the bag.

This is right from the Newborns in Need site:

"We do not have to look outside our borders to find babies in desperate need of our help.  Just imagine what it would be like to be out of money, have a newborn baby and have very little support. Other than a cotton top, a few diapers and a thin flannel receiving blanket, you have nothing to keep your baby warm.  Imagine holding a four pound premature baby in your arms and wondering where to find extra small clothing to fit his fragile body.  Imagine as you sit holding this tiny new life, a nurse or social worker walks up with a     Newborn’s Immediate Need Essentials Kit. Tucked inside are blankets, sleepers, diapers, hats, booties, baby wash and shampoo.  These items are lovingly given by a nearby Newborns in Need Chapter.
When sadness is all around as your precious child is now gone, Newborns in Need provides a special outfit and memory item for the family gathered together to say good-bye.  As this is the only outfit the baby might ever wear, this clothing is delivered to the hospital or home with great honor and love. Newborns in Need volunteers provide miscarriage wraps and full-term burial gowns to dress the baby in an effort to  help the family who is burdened with grief.
Chapters serve their own communities by contacting local agencies, hospitals and shelters and provide items wherever needed.  Volunteers meet monthly to cut, sew, knit, crochet, pack and organize these care items throughout their geographic area.  Made up of hand-made and store bought items, these donations are delivered each month to waiting recipients."

OK, now you want to know why I did this.  Here it is in a nutshell.  While you are out shopping for Christmas gifts, how about purchasing something from the list and donating it?  Don't what to pay for shipping?  Many stores are online and you can ship for free!  Do you have baby cloths in storage you aren't using?  Bottles? Are they in good shape?  Feel like donating them?  All donations are tax deductible!!!

Have a wonderful Holiday Season everyone.  Merry Christmas!!  Happy Hanukkah!  Merry Kwanzaa! May the Winter Solstice bring you joy, happiness and peace.

 Alexa's Wings - Newborns in Need
    Director 
Michelle Salazar
    13319 Garcia Street   
    Quantico Va 22134
    915-491-2007
    woodbridge@newbornsinneed.org
    www.newbornsinneed.org/woodbridge/

Number of items in bag Item Target Cost per Item Cost Placed in Bag Dollar Store
24 Diapers (36) $6.49 $0.18 $4.56 $4.56
1 Baby Wipes $1.79 $1.79 $1.00
1 Vaseline $2.34 $2.34 $1.00
1 Rash Ointment $2.49 $2.49 $1.00
1 Baby Lotion $2.19 $2.19 $1.00
1 Baby Wash $1.47 $1.47 $1.00
1 Baby Shampoo $1.47 $1.47 $1.00
2 Receiving (4)  $10.29 $2.57 $5.06 $5.06
1 Bottle $12.99 $4.33 $4.33 $1.00
1 Pacifiers $5.99 $5.99 $1.00
2 Sleepers (3) $12.99 $4.33 $8.66 $8.66
2 5 pk onesies $9.99 $2.00 $4.00 $4.00
1 Cap & Mitten set (2) $6.99 $3.50 $3.50 $3.50
1 Outfit $7.78 $7.78 $7.78
2 Bib set (3) $6.99 $2.33 $4.66 $2.00
2 Washcloth (3) $4.99 $1.66 $3.28 $2.00
1 Baby Swaddle Bag $21.00 $21.00 $21.00
1 Toy $5.00 $1.00
3 socks $3.99 $1.33 $3.99 $3.99
1 Warm Blanket $6.00 $6.00 $6.00 $6.00
2 Burp cloths $3.00 $3.00 $3.00
Total Cost $136.23 $97.56 $80.55

Thursday, June 6, 2013

A Mother's Courage - Turning Grief into Hope

Alexa

I want to tell you about a young female Marine I work with.  She embodies the meaning of Marine, I mean come on, she has a sign up at her desk, "When I was little, other girls wanted to grow up to be Princesses, I wanted to be a Marine."  I don't doubt it either.

We call her "TJ", Michelle Salazar is her name.  When I first met TJ, she came into BaseTel, and you noticed this belly, a quick fantastic smile, and eyes that expressed what she is thinking, and trust me this girl will tell you exactly what she is thinking.  She was all belly, and  yes, she radiated that natural beauty a pregnant woman seems to have.  

She was so excited about her baby.  Due in November, she and her husband went back and forth about names.  I loved hearing her talk about the names and how she and her husband went back and forth about names if it were a boy or a girl.

Her daughter, Elysia, I think she was 3 at the time, was always willing to talk about the baby brother or sister that she will have.  You know in that cute little kid voice, with some mispronounced words.

Alexa
The big day finally came, and she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.  Alexa.  She was so excited, and full of love for both of her daughters.  I am not sure who was happier, TJ, her husband or Elysia.  Life couldn't have been better or happier for TJ and her family; at least until a terrible day in January.

TJ came back to work, and like a true Marine, took the work in stride, dealt with the responsibilities not only of the responsibility from BaseTel, but also the responsibilities of a Marine.

One of the responsibilities is Duty.  A twenty-four hour day, a twenty-hour watch.  In the wee hours of the morning, the MPs come to TJs duty station.  They told her that her  husband and baby were on their way to the hospital.

Alexa the Angel
I think it was around 2 AM, Alex, went to check on Alexa and found her not breathing. He did CPR and called the Paramedics.  They told him to have her on the floor when they got there.  Somehow they broke little Alexa's foot.  She was unresponsive.

The MPs came to TJ's duty station and informed her that her husband and child were on their way to the hospital, the thoughts that must have gone through her hear, I can't even imagine.

Wasting no time getting to the hospital, TJ was given the new no parent wants to hear.  Her little tiny girl, her little angel who had barely been on this earth two months was gone.  Dead, stolen away from them for no reason anyone could think of.

Faced with the loss of their daughter, planning a funeral for their daughter.  Seeing the expense and pain, TJ knew in her heart that she wanted to do something to help others in the same situation, and help those who have newborns, and those who have little for their new baby.

Doing her research, she found Newborns in Need, they help those who have lost their baby, providing a burial gown, memory box, or flowers, what they can to help the parents deal with their loss.  They also help people who have newborns, blankets, diapers, formula, wipes, onesies, whatever they can.

So she took her grief at loosing  her baby and turned it into excitement.  Excitement and inspiration.  She could make a difference for others, and she could inspire others to help.  She would make a difference, even it is a small one in the lives of these families. 

Becoming so excited it was palatable, she did her research and did something.  She established the Woodbridge/Prince William County Chapter of Newborns in Need; Alexa's Wings.

All of the items that are given are donated either the item itself or funds to purchase.  You can help by donating.  Can you crochet or knit?  How about making a crib blanket, booties, caps, anything a baby can use.

Do you sew?  How about sewing up a bunting or two, or a burial gown or two?  (You can use old Wedding Dresses to make them).  Or you can donate fabric to make the items, fleece, flannel, anything that can make bibs, burp clothes, anything that can be sewn for a baby.

Do you craft?  How about making a Mother and Child bracelet?  One for the Mother, one for the baby to be buried.  How about making a Memory Box?  A box to keep whatever keepsakes they have of the baby.

Are you good with brochure design?  Have time to sit at a booth for an event?  Good at fund raising ideas?  Volunteers make the difference in the success or failure of a non-profit.

Just want to make a small donation?  That works too.   Everything is tax deductible, and you will receive a receipt for it.

Hopefully, we can keep this blog going and update it with   needs, goals, meetings, and keeping you all up to date on the progress the group is making.

Here is the link for the Woodbridge Chapter:  https://sites.google.com/a/newbornsinneed.org/woodbridge/

You can send any donations to TJ at:

Director Michelle A. Trujillo
13319 Garcia st Quantico Va 22134
 
There is a meeting on Saturday, I'll get the information and post it up tomorrow, I left it at work.  Please help if you can.